I remember it to be a surreal feeling. A 2cm long life budding in my belly.
And it therefore meant I was the only one who could protect her, no matter what it would take.
A mother's instinct that kicked in automatically.
A lot of details needed to be taken care of.
Let me try to recall & write them down. It might be handy to friends who needed some advice & I could refer them here, before I go into a "I think...urmm.. I can't recall..." mode. Haha...
1. Get A Test Kit
Mom-to-be, please note that going to clinics for a urine test is typically not covered under your company's health care benefit. You must check your company's policies. I thought it would be and therefore be subsidized, but end up I think I could get cheaper sticks from the local pharmacy stores. haha..
2. Choosing a Gynae / Hospital
You need to decide if you are comfortable with a male or female Gynae.
I heard of some hubbies who mind male gynaes, which I thought it's quite sweet right? Or is that considered obsessive? Haha.. Anyway some reviews about female gynaes are they have been through it & therefore somehow is less sympathetic about the labor pain than male gynaes.
Maybe it would be best to get a Gynae recommended by someone you trust, but then that would mean you need to reveal this good news before the 3-month period is over. You could do a "I'm asking for my colleague"-trick, haha.. If it's convincing..
Otherwise, a simple search in Google for "Gynaes in Singapore" works too. You may check out this site: http://www.kiasumom.com/top-100-most-popular-gynae-in-singapore-baby-forums/
As for me, I revealed this piece of good news to my sisters and mom, reason being we are just to close and i couldn't hold it any longer! haha.. so I went for the same Gynae as my sis.
Another factor to consider, other than the gender of the gynae and his/her reputation, are the hospitals he would deliver at, and also the location of his/her clinic for your periodic checks.
For example, some prefers to decide the hospital before deciding the gynae.
I was lucky to have a Gynae with a reputable feedback & recommended by my sister, clinic very conveniently located and near my place (walking distance!), with operating hours into as late as 9pm on certain days. This helped greatly as i could schedule evening appointments on weekdays to avoid missing in work to often and also saved leave days. He does delivery at the hospital i have imagined myself to deliver at if there is ever this day. (lol).
3. Decide on a Confinement Lady (CL)
Discuss with your husband if an additional pair of hands would be useful during the first month of delivery. This month is crucial for the mother to recuperate after carrying the baby inside her for 40months, plus the amount of strength put in to push the baby out.
Decide whether this person could me your own mother, or your mother-in-law. IMHO, if you could afford the money, get a CL to help instead of someone you know. (1) Mothers or MIL are not young as before; it would be tiring for them to cook in the day and evening, do the baby laundry, tend to the baby, and even do night shifts to care for the baby while you sleep to recuperate. You might not be able to rest well because you would have the nagging feeling of feeling bad. Trust me, this period is a damned emo period, and you will think alot alot alot...
So anyway, if it's within means, ask around your friends or relatives for CL with good review based on their personal experiences. Typically they would be from Malaysia, so for those who don't have a Singapore line, it would be good to use for e.g., Skype to call Malaysia numbers. It's relatively cheaper.
As for me, again, i asked my sister. Unfortunately, the one she engaged was busy during the period i was looking at. My sister helped me to source around, and she recommended one her friend gave very high review. So i gave it a try.
As she was from Malaysia, i requested to meet up for an "interview" at Kranji MRT station. (One plus point for her as she agreed to meet us for a chit-chat!) I still remember, together with my hubby, maomi, we had drinks at the Kopitiam, and asked a few questions. These questions were also prepared upfront before we meet to make her trip more fruitful!
Questions like:
(1) No. of years of experience in this line
(2) The kind of food she would prepare during confinement period
(3) Whether she can cook for the hubby and other family members in the house. Be upfront about the no. of additional mouths, because remember, her primary role is to take care of the mother and the baby
(4) How would she handle if the baby is hungry; feed BM or FM? This is just to get a sensing of her views on BM and FM. Some CL can be like so pro FM, and initially if the mother could not have enough BM supply yet, it could create a conflict.
(5) How would she handle the laundry?
4. Review your Diet
With the guidance of your Gynae, eat healthy!
It depends on whether you believe in the some myths like no coconut in the first two trimesters as it is deemed as too "liang" (cold) for the body. I followed this. hahah.. and i took coconut drink in the last month into my pregnancy as it is believed to help with the labour, and the baby will come out with smooth and fairer skin. hahah..
Some say no bananas too, which i followed. Not sure was it becos i lacked of potassium and therefore i had leg cramps / water retention. hahahah
I am for the big NO-NO for non-fully cooked food, like half-boiled eggs, sashimi, salads unless it's prepared by yourself or someone you trust with good hygiene. These type of food typically contain bacteria, which could be harmful to the foetus.
I also avoided seafood, for fear of they baby getting sensitive skin, as some say.
Oh oh! and of cos caffeine! I avoided it totally. well. ok one or two sips once a while. That is, after the first trimester. Otherwise i totally abstained from it. Gynae said there is studies that show caffeine causes miscarriages. I guess caffeine lovers need to control abit la. haha..
5. Look out for Baby Deals
Breast pumps, milk bottles, play mat, diapers, baby cots, stroller.... It's good to visit the baby fairs and have a rough feel of what things are required/ sold/ price range, even though you are early in the pregnancy.
The upcoming Baby Fair is Baby Market happening from 14-16 Oct 2016. Pre-order now open from 14-20 Sep 2016.
Personally, i find Robinson's gave good deals too during baby fairs, or even like during GSS. During these periods, there is usually an instant like $30 coupon deduction with some minimum purchase, which you would definitely hit as those items are usually big ticket items! And what is even better to this? If you are a Robinson's member, you get another 5% cash rebate in your bill! Isn't that awesome??!
6. Do a Closet Makeover
I was so depressed when i couldn't fit into my usual clothes as the days went by. Those maternity dresses / tops also look quite boring, and a little mature for my liking.
After much consideration, I bought a pair of maternity pants from Springs Maternity. It's quite expensive!
Then i turned to dresses, and got two dresses from Zalora. That was also my first shopping experience with Zalora!
Then i got tired of dresses, I could still remember i was so happy when i saw elastic leggings on sale in Espirit. I bought 3 of them; blue, grey and black. haha..
Anyway, these days with such easy access to websites like ASOS, or even US websites like Gap and thereafter ship over by using proxies like EzBuy, it makes the selection of maternity clothes wider! haha.. Makes me feel like wanting to buy those clothes now. hahahah.. Get ready ma.
7. Choose a Name
Time to choose a name for your baby! Boy, Girl!? Do online search for ideas, watch movies for more ideas! haha.. then go online and check the meaning if it suits your liking!
For those who are more traditional and want to do some fortune telling for the names, now the hospitals made it super convenient! There is typically a counter in the hospital where you can pass the guy the 8-characters of the baby, and he would "tell" and give you a list of names to choose.
8. Make Care Arrangement
If you are a working mom, you would be interested to find out more on Infant/Child Care subsidy for Working Moms, and the locations of infant/child care centres near you; be it near your home or workplace.
https://www.childcarelink.gov.sg/ccls/home/CCLS_HomeParentsSubsidies.jsp
I believed times have changed. In Year 2014, I was still able to register my interest by putting my name with the Infant Care Centres directly, such as PCK SparkleTots in areas near my place and workplace too. I also registered online for My First Skool at http://www.myfirstskool.com/registrations/preschools. I also put my name in some private ones just in case there is no slots for the Goverment ones.
I was very fortunate to receive offers (like job offers. hahah) from two infant care centres. One was near my place, another near my workplace.
Pros of having it near your place:
- Convenient to bring her to school if you needed a short break or some me-time, needed to take medical leave cos you are unwell, needed to be on leave to catch up on errands or chores
- Convenient to bring essential things like milk powder or bottle if forget to pack in (Ya, it happens!!)
- No need to worry about the transport if you are not driving. How to carry a baby, a barang-barang for the baby's use in school, your own work bag?
Cons of having it near your place:
- Need to rush back from work by 7pm, the typical pick-up time before you get fined $1 per minute. haha.. actually, it's not so much about the money. It's holding the teacher back, in a way, and worry overtime the teacher would be unhappy. Also, how would the kid feel, with all their friends gone home and left only him/her?
The pros and cons of having it near your workplace would be the reverse of the above. Imagine you are on leave and you still need to bring him/her to your work area to deposit him/her in the centre. How anti-climax is that to your leave day!!?
9. Start or Continue an Exercise Regimen
Do check with your Gynae on what form of exercise is good for you and your baby.
Running has always been part of my exercise regimen.
I also read some online blogs that said jogging is generally ok for mothers who are already a frequent runner.
Then my Gynae advised against it. (1) Rise in body temperature that might be bad for the foetus, (2) Vibrations to the foetus that might be bad, (3) strenuous on the back, knees and feet, especially with the extra weight gained.
So... I turned to brisk-walking, which he also advised against for the same reason as running.
He advocated swimming, and had to be at least 3 times per week. Maomi and I made an effort to achieve that, and the bonus $100 from the ActiveSG was our sponsor. haha.. Our SAFRA membership also helped too. Sometimes we go public or SAFRA pool, depending on our location for that day. hahah..
Only when like 37 weeks into my pregnancy, I would climb stairs every other night. It is believed to aid in the delivery. haha..
10. Sit Back, Relax & Wait to "POP"
I like to do these three things each night.
(1) Watch Ellen Show
http://www.ellentv.com/
I agree totally that positive ions are very important for an expectant mother. They need to stay happy, and refrain from getting stressed up or unhappy.
Watching Ellen Show helps me. i laughed and laughed. hahah..
(2) Listen to Classical music
Apparently there is research that backs that Mozart music helps the brain development of a child, even unborn babies.
I like to listen to Chopin Nocturne Op. 9 No. 2 too! It reminds me of the baby scene from the Japanese cartoon, Magical Princess Minky Momo, when she was reborn. (Anyone watched/still remembers Minky Momo??? 🙋🙋🏻🙋🏻🙋🏻)
Anyway, just YouTube for Mozart or Chopin!
(3) Listen to nursery rhymes
I downloaded Fisher Price apps, and played songs like shapes and colors, or even some nursery rhymes for my baby.
Well, people said they could hear us even when they are in the tummy. haha..
No harm giving these a try! :)
I hope these are some useful tips for any MTBs! And, Congratulations! :)
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